Ritual), the reality is it’s all extremely doable stuff. While some of the above may seem extreme (especially the airplane My boyfriend understands this and has learned that when he returns home for a trip he needs to put all his clothes in the wash, take a shower, and wipe down anything that’s been on the plane (cellphone, kindle, wallet). Airplanes are a huge trigger for me and it’s something I’m unable (at this point) to compromise about. Everything has to be cleaned immediately after being on an airplane including the people on the airplane.Partly because I don’t trust him to touch my clean clothes. Partly because I work from home and it’s easy for me. As long as we swap out the sponge once I week, I don’t feel as uncomfortable when he uses it. I quickly realized it would be impossible to ask him to stop hand washing, so I devised a compromise. This has a lot to do with how disgusting I find sponges to be. Regardless of how effective they actually are, I don’t think something is adequately clean unless it’s been through the dishwasher. My boyfriend likes to clean the dishes by hand. He still bumps into these towels on occasion since they hang off the back of the bathroom door, but instead of freaking out or immediately changing them for clean ones, I try (and succeed) to look the other way. For all the progress I’ve made, I’m deeply uncomfortable with the idea of the first thing that touches my clean body being contaminated. He is not allowed to touch my bath towels.Duh! But when he forgets or wants to wear his sneakers in the second bedroom to work out, I take a few breaths and let it happen. What is too much? I then take these terms to my boyfriend and he kindlyĪccommodates to make me comfortable. Instead of giving in to all of its desires, I negotiate. I do not want to be a prisoner to my OCD. Part of being able to make it work is all the solo work I’ve beenĭoing to get myself ready for this. How could I coexist in the same space with someone Despite being medicated and in therapy, I still harbor aĭeep fear of contamination. Now, at 30, the most obvious part of my ailment isĬleanliness-based. ![]() They were wondering how my OCD was handling living with ![]() Quickly realized they weren’t referring to the character of my boyfriend, who When I moved in with my boyfriend a few weeks ago, I expected aįew congratulations and maybe even a couple “That was fast!” What I didn’tĮxpect was people asking me in hushed voices, “How is that going?” I Allison grew up in Scarsdale, NY and holds a BFA in screenwriting from USC. Allison teamed up with Midroll on GOSSIP, a 12-part narrative fiction podcast, which premiered on June 14 th, 2018, immediately hitting the worldwide top charts. The sequel, Please Send Help… was published on July 16 th, 2019 quickly earning a position on a list of The 20 Best LGBTQ Books of 2019 by Harper’s Bazaar. Martin’s Press, quickly becoming a bestseller. Gaby Dunn and Allison’s I Hate Everyone But You was the first debut novel published under Wednesday Books’ inaugural list, an imprint of St. ![]() Three’s Company: Living with My Boyfriend and My OCDĪllison Raskin is a New York Times bestselling author, actress, director and co-creator of the YouTube comedy channel and podcast, Just Between Us.
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